Singer Chelsea Berman took to TikTok, where she claimed that writing ‘paragraphs’ about partners online could actually be a red flag that the relationship isn’t all as it seems.
Chelsea explained: “I have a theory that if you are posting your partner excessively on social media with paragraphs and ‘you’re my soul mate’ and ‘you’re amazing’ excessively then you’re actually miserable in that relationship.”
Chelsea has a theory about posting your relationship online (Getty Stock Photo)
She continued: “A few reasons — one, because I’ve been there. Two, who are you trying to prove it to? You can just tell them that.
“And there’s no problem with posting your partner on social media, that’s not what I’m saying, I do that too, but it’s the excessive, multiple posts every week, multiple paragraphs, it’s too much and I think it’s a cry for help.”
People had a lot of thoughts on Chelsea’s video, with some agreeing while others were adamant her theory was incorrect.
One person commented: “A private life is a happy life.”
While another said: “100% it’s always the ones that end up breaking up.”
And a third added: “Agree and also the ones who never post their partner at all too.”
“It’s like, please don’t tell facebook. Tell the actual person! What are you trying to prove?” Said a fourth.
Others were certain that Chelsea’s theory was all wrong, with another writing: “I post my partner weekly cause he is the kindest, smartest, most caring soul. Healthy love exists and I love to share our love.”
And another added: “I post my partner all the time coz for the first time in my life I feel valued and happy in a relationship. So NO this is not true.”
A third asked: “Where do you come up with these conclusions?”
Another said she hated that this was people’s opinion, explaining she’s simply a ‘romantic’.
“I hate how this is the thing people say now, I’m just a romantic and it makes me happy but I get it cause some people post like once a week lol,” she wrote.
Some people agreed with Chelsea’s theory (Getty Stock Photo)
Apparently, there could be some merit to Chelsea’s theory, with relationship expert Sarah Jayne telling news.co.au: “Overposting screams insecurity in the relationship, where you are trying to prove to people out there just how happy you are and how strong you are going, embellishing the positive experiences.
“Over posting affectionate pictures and captions might be a sign that a couple is grappling with issues like lack of trust or communication. Sometimes, constantly posting your relationship, or always wanting to be posted becomes a smokescreen that masks the real struggles within the relationship.”
Meanwhile, a study published in the Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin found that having high ‘relationship visibility’ could be a sign of relationship insecurity.
“On a daily basis, when people felt more insecure about their partner’s feelings, they tended to make their relationships visible,” the study explained.
“These studies highlight the role of relationships in how people portray themselves to others.”
